Stressed
out Mom Try’s to be Fun!
If you never did you should. These things are fun and fun is good!
~Dr. Seuss
~Dr. Seuss
Funny
story and good lesson I had to share.
Today
I found myself in my “Drill Sergeant Mom” mode….Again! Even though it is summer, and we are
not as busy, I still find that I often make our play activities seem like work. You know how it
can be packing and unpacking a car after an activity? All the details of
cleaning up and getting everyone ready, on top of the accumulated mess at home
and dinner I have to prepare. If I focus on all that, I can quickly find myself
in a not so relaxed or fun mode.
We
went to the beach today and I think from the moment I got the car packed with
all our surf boards and gear, found parking, unloaded and suited everyone up, to
the time we got home to clean up the mess from the day (as well as the mess we
left at home) I was in intense drill sergeant mode. I was so focused on all the work that I forgot we were playing. I barked orders for the
better part of our day. My kids all tried to avoid eye contact with me in fear I
may give them another job or chore for them to do.
I
just wanted to be fun mom today. I just wanted to smile and laugh and chase my
kids in the water. I have been to the beach before, I was aware of the tasks
that involve taking four kids surfing. I could of kept it light and fun, but I
let stress get the better part of me. And when I “go there”, everyone suffers.
Well
after my ranting and raving, I let the kids go in another room to watch a movie
so I could tackle my house cleaning. I scrubbed and mopped and dusted and
vacuumed, and during the hum of my vacuuming I remembered how cool my kids
really are. I remembered how much I like them and how I could have been a lot
nicer today. I asked God to help me focus on the play to be found in every day more than the work. Stuff, and not always fun stuff, has to get done. But if I am
always in the taskmaster mode my kids won’t have fun with me or find me an
enjoyable person to be around. When my kids are grown I don’t want them to
remember me as, “ a really responsible moody mom who got crap done!” I want them to
remember me as a happy, fun, playful mom who still got crap done!
I
have walked long enough and close enough to the kindness of God to not go into
"guilt mode" over the days happenings, and I know Christ in me has made a way for
me to be fun and playful, even in the middle of stress. So as I kept cleaning,
I decided to find some fun spontaneous ways to be playful with my kids. I want
to fill up a bunch of water balloons and then hide and peg them with them when
they least expect it. I want to be the one that says, "you know, lets have ice
cream for dinner, just once!" I began to form a list of FUN in my mind that should keep me busy for the remainder of
summer. I decided that I would even do something spontaneous and fun tonight! John
recently got me a fancy espresso maker for my Birthday, and I have promised to make the
kids steamers with it, so I thought, “tonight I would surprise them with
steamer even though it is bedtime.” This is the part of the story that gets
funny in a not so funny sort of way:
After
the milk was heated and steamed, I divided it into the kid’s four special cups
with their initials on them, and then I went to go find flavoring syrup I remembered
I got during Christmas. It was a seasonal pumpkin- spice syrup and I thought it
would make an, oh-so good flavor of a steamer. I was really feeling like a fun
and spontaneous mom at this point.
Well,
I guess the pumpkin flavoring syrup was a product that needed refrigerating after opening and I hadn’t
realized that when I decided to store it in my pantry, because when I shook and
then opened that sucker, it exploded! It literally exploded all over my freshly
moped and scrubbed kitchen and all over me. There was thick, orange pumpkin-
spice flavoring syrup on the ceiling, walls, floors and even on the inside of
my open cupboards covering every single clean plate and cup. There was “pumpkin syrup from hell” all in my
hair and all over my jammies! Here I was trying to be fun and spontaneous and
it literally blew up in my face!
I
wanted to loose it and start using every four-letter word I knew in that
kitchen, but I didn’t (well maybe I thought about the words in my head). I knew
that this was life, and life can be messy and unplanned. This is what I had
just asked God for and I knew he gave me, the ability to get crap done and
still be playful. It was my test, an immediate test from what I just asked for,
but it was such a gift to be able to get my rag and spray cleaner and tackle
that mess without loosing my cool and goal to play.
After
about an hour of cleaning up pumpkin goop before it solidified, I reheated and
foamed the milk and called the kids to the table. I told them how awesome they
were and I wanted to surprise them with the steamers I had promised them months
ago. I sat with them and talked about the exciting things they wanted to do
this summer as they enjoyed their Honey flavored steamers.
When he marked out the foundations of the earth, I (Wisdom) was with him as someone he could trust.
For me, every day was pure delight.
as I played in his presence all the time,
playing everywhere on his earth,
and delighting to be with humankind.
(Proverbs 8:29-32, Complete Jewish Bible)
I think that no matter what we are doing, no matter how stressful it seems, if we remember to purpose to play and remain in a playful state of mind, we will eventually not be able to make the distinction between work and play. I want to be that kind of mom!
Be playful with your kids mom's. And don't worry about the mess!
~Lily
